Have you recently 'lost' your job?

Fired. Laid off. Let go. Downsized. Terminated. Got done.

You ‘got done’ at your job today, recently, last month, last year. You say you still don’t really know why. Or, you do know really why and it’s not fair. And you’re falling into a downward spiral, headed toward the (dreaded) Pit of Despair. Or maybe you’re already there, in the Pit, and can’t figure out how to get out. Can’t think straight. Don’t even know who you are any more.

If it’s any consolation, it happens to just about everybody at some point in their lives.

We all get done at something we didn’t think we wanted to get done from. Somebody pushed us out somehow. Lost job, failed business, dissolved marriage.

Somewhere along the way, we all experience some of these things, either personally or through someone we’re close to, so close to that their experience becomes ours.

And the good news is that most of us live to see another day. We rally, even, we make successful comebacks. Often we’re even better off than we were before.

That can be what happens to you, too.

A visit to the Pit of Despair isn’t the end of the world. Quite the contrary. The end of the old is the beginning of something new. Life goes from good to better. It does! It’s all about perspective.

Face it: what’s done is done. Something has ended that you didn’t want to end. Yes you deserve to feel sad / angry / furious / wounded / etc. etc. You need time to grieve, lick your wounds. But ask yourself if that’s where you want to spend the rest of your life – grieving and wound-licking. You certainly may stay there if you wish – there’s nothing wrong with it for the rest of the world if there’s nothing wrong with it for you. But, ask yourself: did you really come to the planet to spend months or years wallowing in self-pity?

You could look at it this way: life is about seasons – a time to be born, a time to die, and then a time to be born yet again. Life is like a northeastern U.S. garden. Flower gardens are at their lushest in summer – bursting with flowers – exactly what gardens are all about. But six months ago, the beauty and wonder of the flower garden was nowhere to be found. The ground was covered with snow and ice. Trees were bare of leaves. It was cold out, too, and the days were short. Remember?  What a difference a few months can make!

Maybe you could just try trusting the process. Think about this: you’ve been through difficulties before, and lived to tell about them, maybe even flourished because of them. They make us bigger, stronger, more. It amazes me how often clients tell me about how they got fired/laid off/whatever, and once we get past the initial shock/anger/hurt of it, they say, “I’ve gotta say, I really don’t miss the stress of the place / of my boss / of the work .. I hated that job.. hated going to work every day.. was so burnt out. I don’t miss it.”

Sometimes somebody does us a favor by pushing us out the door.

Get ready to find some new doors, a new path, the new road. Your Next Big Adventure is right there -- waiting for you to find it. And you know what? That’s why you got pushed out the door to begin with -- because it was time for this new thing. Someday you’ll be grateful to the person who helped you on your way, because you’ll find yourself in a much better place.

It’s a great world. Something new is ready for you and is calling you to itself. Relax and let go. Trust your instincts / gut feeling / intuition. Clearly you're not in Kansas any more -- might as well follow the yellow brick road. You'll be glad you did.

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